Advice for new ostomates

Aneica shares a message of hope for new ostomates

Firstly, I would like to acknowledge that everyone is different, the thought of having a stoma can be just too much for you to come to terms with.

This is just a little note that will hopefully give people courage, strength, hope and faith who may be facing stoma surgery soon and those who are having trouble with their stoma at the minute.

Facing surgery and knowing when you wake up, you are going to have to adapt to something new is challenging. Your first stoma bag change with your stoma nurse makes you squeamish and you feel like you can’t do it, BUT YOU CAN! Your anxious incase some hears your stoma making a noise, BUT THEY WONT!! At the start you will be nervous about going out to meet people thinking can they see it, BUT THEY CAN’T!!

There will be days that you hate your stoma and think about what you would do if you didn’t have it, then you’re accepting of it again because of all the things you can do with it. It is normal to go through those emotions, as it can impact your mental health just as much if not more than your physical health.

Having a stoma is just a small part of your bigger life, you can do whatever you want to after stoma surgery.  Go for a swim, run, cycle, be a nurse, police officer and even a firefighter to name a few.

The ostomy community is forever growing, people from all over the world can get in touch with each other, express concerns or worries or just meet up for a cup of tea.

People react to situations in many ways, people are sensitive about the subject, but you should know that there is great support for you and your families out there in this forever evolving world.

At the start it may be scary, but you will look back and feel so proud of yourself, of how far you have come, the challenges you faced and will be so grateful for the people you have met through living  with a stoma.