When will all this feel normal?

Hi everyone! I'm 30 days in from my ileostomy surgery and I'm really pleased with some of my progress: I can change my bag without feeling faint, I'm walking to the shops and I'm managing to talk about my stoma with my friends and joke about it. But, I don't feel normal. It takes so much time (bag changes, managing the high output, hydration, finding clothes that don't show the bag, eating the right things, chewing well - heck, I can't even sleep like I used to). How long did it take before you all felt like your life didn't revolve around your bag? And how do I learn to feel like me again? I think, for the first time, I feel a like I'm disabled. I don't feel young, or attractive, or carefree. How do I reclaim myself?