Naomi, I have had Ileostomy since last July, I feel the same you do, life is no longer what it use to be, full night sleep is over for me, bag changes get easier, do it first thing in the morning for best results, I also have high output and have to go for infusions three times a week to keep hydrated. Naomi, you will always be an attractive women, I am older but also having a hard time connecting with women, but life goes on.
Naomi, no I do not feel better for it, I had a procedure that you May research called BCIR out of ST. Pete Florida, had it done in 2005 and developed a fistula in 2018 had surgery but would not heal so I got the Ileostomy. The hard part for me although I am older than you is not being able to date and have that companionship, I am hoping to find an ostiomate so we have something in common and the same issues. it is life changing.